Online the mommy wars rage, and the tempers flare, and the insecurities fly everywhere in the form of accusations and judgmental finger pointing. Whenever a mother chooses something different either by necessity or because it is a method that works better for her family, she is ostracized, rejected, guilt tripped, and made to feel inadequate or that she does not deserve the honor of motherhood. This is plain ridiculous! I say enough!
It should not matter whether you bottle feed, breastfeed, whether you co-sleep, or whether you use cry it out, or what sort of diapers cover your little ones sweet little bum, there is no excuse for treating other women like this! Rather than focus on every tiny thing and hyperfocus on issues that are mere preferences that some would like to think spell impending success or doom, what we should be doing is to learn of one another and why we do what we do and how we do it as mothers!
There is no one right or perfect way to be a mother - but a million ways a to be a wonderful one. A
mother is a woman lovingly raising a child to the best of her ability. It is not defined by whether another woman or mother thinks her choices are valid or whether she agrees. This is conditional sisterhood, and it's revolting. It's contributing to high rates of insecurities, judgments, and feelings of inadequacy that exacerbate into depression and the worsening of the PPD problem in this nation.
Since when is it ever ok to put someone down because they are different than you? Doing so makes you a bully. I don't care if it's on the playground or if it's in the workplace, or heaven forbid in our own homes through the internet, it is still bullying. I'm taking a stand for sisterhood, and against bullying of mothers by other mothers. This needs to stop, and it needs to stop right now!
